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March
2005
My News
March has been a very busy month for me with lots of coaching, 3 talks and 2 confidence workshops. I also managed to fit in a birthday! I had a great day, because my family decided to do a version of 'Queer Eye for the Straight Guy'. It was billed as 'Young Eye for the Old Guy' and they bought me some 'cool' clothes, Aaron cooked lunch for us all, and we topped it off with a visit to the theatre to see Mary Poppins. What a brilliant show. In it is a new song which includes the words: Anything can happen if we let it. It's my new mantra...
I had a meeting with Jon Davey of Business in Berkshire who has a 'Reciprocal links' page on his website. What this does is help push up both people's sites on the search engines. I am going to set up a page on my website and I am inviting you to participate to our mutual benefit. Just give me a one or two words of description of your business classification and then your web address. If you want to see how Jon does it, and also look at his excellent site click on www.businessinberkshire.co.uk/links.html
My Muse
Did you enjoy the sunshine last weekend? (Apologies to overseas subscribers, but to us Brits it's seems like ages since it was warm!)
Did the sunshine fill you with gladness? Do the daffodils raise your spirit?
How would you feel if I described you as a victim? "Urgh! It's the worst thing you could possibly say"
I'm sure that you don't want to see yourself as a victim, but the way I look at it is that if you rely on external circumstances to make you happy, you are a victim of circumstances.
I think that there are two ways of being, you are either a victim or in charge. And all of us are both at one time or another. The more time we spend being in charge the less time we spend being a victim. And the more time we spend being a victim, the less time we have to be in charge.
I can't think of anything worse than being a victim, but we are when we allow external circumstances to dictate how we feel. So if it's cloudy and rainy we feel lousy, depressed and lethargic. If the checkout girl at the supermarket is rude, it affects our mood for hours. If our boss doesn't see our point of view we feel frustrated. If a driver cuts us up, we get angry. When we are in this mindset we believe that the circumstances 'make us' react and create our mood. We cannot see that, in fact, we have an internal filter system, which can deflect the external situation into a 'chamber of choice'. We have the ability to choose our reaction. We can choose to break the link and not be affected, or at least minimise the negative effects on us.
When we choose our reaction, we are in charge. Sometimes there isn't time to choose our first reaction, but then we can choose how to act after that explosion. Being in charge means being in charge of our lives, and all we need to do to be in charge is to choose. Make conscious decisions, and make as many as possible.
So how do we enjoy the sunshine without being a victim? If you are indoors and you see it's a beautiful day, you can choose to go outside and enjoy the sunshine, then you are in charge. You can choose to look at the daffodils, or buy some for your home or a loved one. Choose choose choose, then you'll never be a victim!
Book Recommendation
Powerful Sleep by Kacper Postawski
I have been talking about this system for a long time, but I didn't want to recommend it until I could say from my own experience that it works. I also think that it will be easier to put into effect during the spring and summer months. When I looked at the system I came from the perspective that I want more energy. I'm not personally that interested in reducing my sleeping time, but increasing energy is very important to me.
I can report that the system works. I have produced great results from a very easy to follow, easy to understand method. I would recommend clicking through to read what it's about and have the opportunity to buy this e-book today and start putting the system into practice right away.
For more information on this very effective system how to increase your energy levels and to get the first two chapters free please click on this link:
powerfulsleep.php
Sleep well!
Opportunity to Contribute
My friend Jai has had an idea that he ran past me last week. What he wants is to run his idea past ten people to get different points of view. Ideally he wants to speak to people he doesn't know, and we thought putting a request in here would be better than accosting strangers in the street! If you can spare half an hour to hear the concept and then give Jai your honest feedback, please email me with your contact details and I'll forward your details onto Jai.
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