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Museletter
-
June
2006
My Muse
Fear is what I've been thinking about. We all have fears and their ability to hold us back really interests me. When I say interests me I also mean fascinates and frustrates me!
Let's break it down. What is fear? Fear is a thought about a potential negative event or feeling. As it's a potential event or feeling, it must be in the future, and therefore may or may not happen.
Yet
we
allow
the
fear
to
affect
us.
We
all
know
people
who
are
more
affected
by
fear
than
ourselves,
but
all
of
us
are
affected
to a
degree,
and
it
stops
us
being
our
best.
Watch
out
for
the
following:
What is it that you feel you can't do?
What would you like to do but don't feel you can bring yourself to do?
Is there a step you should be taking in your career, but you haven't?
How
open
are
you?
These questions can raise answers that allow you to see where your thoughts are limiting you. We all have limiting thoughts or beliefs, and I think they are like shadows. At night when you are alone they are scary, but when you throw light on to them–they disappear!
No thought has the power to stop you being the best you can, unless you allow it to. And we all do. So here's my plan for dealing with fear:
1.
Discover
exactly
what
the
thought/fear
is,
through
good
questions.
2.
Accept
that
you
have
this
fear.
It
probably
is
irrational,
ridiculous
etc.
but
do
not
add
that
level
of
judgment,
just
accept
the
reality
that
you
have
the
thought.
3. Decide on whether you want to take this action that creates your fear. (e.g. I have a fear of bungee jumping. My life will be no different if I jump–so I won't. But if it was a fear around doing some marketing etc. then I would want to have the result that marketing brings)
4.
Take
the
action.
As
Susan
Jeffers
put
it
so
eloquently:
Feel
the
fear
and
do
it
anyway.
5.
Observe
the
fear
disappear!
Fear
can
be
useful,
but
most
of
the
time
it
just
holds
us
back
from
being
our
best.
Expunge
that
thought,
be
free
of
it
and
enjoy
your
success
and
growth!
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